How therapy can help?

I respect that at the very foundation of us is a capacity to be with whatever arises. However, because we find ourselves in challenging circumstances, whatever they may be, we may naturally seek support. The therapeuptic encounter then becomes like a journey which aims to find a way to support you, and to transform and reform whatever you struggle with in order to let something new and undiscovered through. 

My aim will always be to enable you to feel more authentic and more deeply in-touch with what is meaningful to you. To enable this an exploration of thoughts, images, feelings, bodily felt sensations and movement as they arise in the moment are shared and explored. As our journey progresses you may begin to notice that  you reconnect with yourself and find your own sense of rhythm, voice and depth.

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Mary's mother had continuously ignored her and had not visited Mary since she moved away from home. Mary was very unhappy and traumatised by her mother's behaviour and found herself holding herself back from opportunities in life as she did not feel 'good enough' about herself. When really she was a very creative and intelligent woman.

Mary was well able to talk lucidly about her experience, but it wasn't until we started to really pay attention to what her body had to say ( through her body sensations and unconscious non-verbal movement) that she discovered something 'forgotten' to her, (her mother had only mentioned this once); that her mother had been adopted. With this realisation Mary began to 'know' that her mother by not visiting her was 'orphaning' her in turn. Because of this, Mary often felt shunned, inadequate and so very alone. Her mother had often abandoned her throughout her life when she really needed her e.g. when she was bullied at school. Mary told me that because of this she often felt that I would desert her.

This was a key insight and led Mary to start holding her expereince of herself in a very different way. Over time Mary began to trust that I would not abandon her and that not everyone abandons you when you need them. She moved away from self-blame and shame and began to feel 'light', more spontaneous and more in contact with herself and others. She started to feel compassion for her mother who she now understood more deeply. By the end of therapy, she had gone on to establish close friendships with a number of older, more expereinced women in her profession (who she had previously kept her distance from) and became a innovative creator in her own professional field.



© Tarisha Finnegan-Clarke 2015